Screw school pamphlets, unhelpful grief groups, and people saying “sorry for your loss.” It’s time to get real about grief. We’re in this together.
Hi, I'm Lexi Silver, and I am on the Youth Advisory Board here at GRIEF SUCKS, and am the teen author who wrote the grief poem book, The Girl Behind Grief's Shadow. I recently created Meet My Grief (meetmygrief.com), an online community filled with poetry, support for grievers, and words of encouragement.
Why do I have so much to say about grief? I'm kind of an expert, unfortunately - I lost my mom on Christmas four years ago due to an accidental suicide, and my dad nine months later due to sepsis. So I've had more than my share of grief and all that comes with it.
My number one goal in creating this community is for my story and poetry to be heard. I focus on grieving out loud and not letting the non-grief-informed society define me by what I have lost. I want people to know that my life is not a sob story...I'm a real human being who has experienced deep loss.
And the best thing to come out of it is creating something that helps others - I'm so proud when people who visit my site tell me that I have helped them while grieving. I hope you'll check it out and find support there too.
by Sydney, age 16
Why we're lovin' it: "Five Feet Apart" (Amazon Prime) is an incredible story about a teenage girl with cystic fibrosis, a life threatening condition which you can’t interact with anyone else who has the same condition. She is a rule-following girl who has planned out her life around her condition, but then she meets a boy who also has cystic fibrosis, who begins to push her out of her comfort zone.
He shows her the beauty of living life to the fullest and not always caring what others will say. He believes in living everyday like it’s his last! As they begin to fall in love, they realize how hard it will be as they can’t be within five feet of each other.
I think this movie represents the same message learned through the process of grieving. You must live life to its fullest because you never know what will happen next! It is so easy to be separated from those you love so don’t wait to tell them you love them!
This movie represents how I feel about my grief because I know what it’s like to regret not spending those last moments with the person you lost! I believe that grief can be interpreted in so many different ways and I think this movie is an incredible way to express your emotions while relating to the characters struggles of constantly losing people they love.
Why we're lovin' it: One song that truly encapsulates my grief is an old song (from 1939!) called “We’ll Meet Again” by Vera Lynn. It's about meeting up with someone after they have died, and that until that moment, we should “keep smiling” and enjoy life.
On its face, it's about losing a loved one, and missing them, but as you read deeper into the lyrics the story becomes more complex. Instead, it focuses on the duality of grief, with the lyrics telling the listener to cherish life and stay happy, because they will “meet again.”
The song shows how it is okay to be happy even while grieving and missing someone. It also mentions how the two people don't know when or where they will meet, serving as a metaphor for life, and implying that you should live your life, not stuck in the past.
After all, we do not know where we will end up, or when we will die. I appreciate that this song is much deeper than it appears, unlike a lot of modern pop songs.
Why we’re lovin’ it: The mission of Get Griefy Magazine is to go beyond conventional storylines surrounding grief. Yes, obviously there is deep sorrow when it comes to our grief but this magazine also celebrates that we can choose to embrace our strength and live fully with grief!
It was founded by Kera Sanchez, a high school Dean of Students in Chicago. The inspiration for it: In June 2022, Kera’s mom died unexpectedly while vacationing in Italy, just days after the birth of Kera’s youngest child.
Kera found herself navigating grief and postpartum “as a two-for-one special.” The more Kera thought about her situation, the more she wanted to put something into the world that would help other grievers.
Enter Get Griefy Magazine, which offers authentic stories, expert insights, and practical resources that empower readers to navigate their grief journey with resilience and purpose. We love it!