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Tomorrow, and Tomorrow, and Tomorrow
Tomorrow, and Tomorrow, and Tomorrow

Why We’re Lovin’ It: Tomorrow, and Tomorrow, and Tomorrow is a coming-of-age story that follows the relationship between two friends, Sadie and Sam, who, over the course of 30 years, come together and become successful creative partners in the world of video game design. 

As we follow their deeply intertwined stories, we ride the waves of joy, frustration, miscommunications, love, deep sadness, and perhaps one of the most impactful and primary themes in the book - grief. 

In Tomorrow, and Tomorrow, and Tomorrow both Sam and Sadie grieve. Sam grieves the death of his mother, and both Sam and Sadie grieve their beloved friend and creative partner together. 

The beauty of this book is that it perfectly captures the notion that everyone grieves in different ways for both different things and shared tragedies. Except it shows us and doesn’t tell us what grief looks like. It shows Sadie being unable to leave bed. It shows Sam pushing to find normalcy and routine. It shows moments of shared laughter when remembering their person. 

Most importantly, it shows us there is not one way to grieve, even if you’re grieving the same person. 

Ultimately, this novel is beautifully written, it’ll make you laugh, cry, and walk away with a deep sense of belonging and understanding that we’re all beautifully (and at times, painfully) human, and that’s more than okay. 

Shrinking
Shrinking

Why we’re lovin’ it: What we appreciate most about the show “Shrinking” on Apple TV is that it shows grief through the eyes of a teenager and an adult, and how the relationship between father and daughter struggles while they grieve their mother/wife’s death. 

In this series, Jimmy, a father, and a therapist, distracts himself from the pain of having experienced the death of his wife and pushes himself away from his grieving teenage daughter, Alice, who needs support from her father now more than ever. 

This show explores something often not represented or talked about: how family dynamics suffer from dealing with the death of a shared person who died. 

In the show's third episode, “Fifteen Minutes,” Alice’s therapist, played by Harrison Ford (yeah, THE Harrison Ford), suggests that she take 15 minutes to listen to a song and allow herself to grieve. When she tries out the exercise, her dad finds her crying. Later on, in an effort to connect with her, he listens to the same song she does (“I Know the End”/Phoebe Bridgers) while on a bike ride and almost immediately starts sobbing before yelling a huge “Eff you, Phoebe Bridgers!” for making him feel all of the feelings. 

Talking about grief is messy. Still, it feels good to see characters accurately represent how grief can impact your relationships with your caregiver on TV. (Don’t worry, though; the show isn’t all the messy parts of grief; there are lots of laughs and tons of relatable moments from Alice's perspective.)

If you haven’t seen it, give it a watch!

"Bigger Than the Whole Sky"
"Bigger Than the Whole Sky"

By: Leila, age 15

There are many songs that I feel really encapsulate my grief about my brother, but one song in particular is “Bigger Than the Whole Sky” by Taylor Swift.  

In this song, she says many words that are similar to the things I thought and felt during his passing.

In the chorus, she says, “Goodbye, goodbye, goodbye, you were bigger than the whole sky; you were more than just a short time.” These words are reminiscent of what I thought during his passing. This is because, although he was here for a short time, he still had such a big impact on so many around him. 

I think anybody who has had someone important in their life die can appreciate this song, but especially those who have lost someone younger than them, like a younger sibling, a child, or even a student, can really relate to this song more than others. Especially in the parts where it talks about the future, that person will never have. 

When we lose our person, it can be hard to let go, but we know we have to. And as challenging as it may be, at some point, we have to come to terms with the death of our person and finally say “Goodbye.” 

Running for the signs
Running for the signs

Why we're lovin' it: Okay, we just had to share this new video from @ExperienceCamps for grieving children from last summer. A solid laugh (anyone in the grief club will get it, for sure!) about how so many of us see cardinals as a sign of our person who died--and simply must chase after it!

She still talks to me. I know it's going to sound crazy, but I get little signs. Lights will blink. Things will flicker. People will come into my life that I don't know where they came from, but they become very helpful.

– Queen Latifah (about her mom)
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