Hi, I'm Lexi Silver, and I am on the Youth Advisory Board here at GRIEF SUCKS, and am the teen author who wrote the grief poem book, The Girl Behind Grief's Shadow. I recently created Meet My Grief (meetmygrief.com), an online community filled with poetry, support for grievers, and words of encouragement. 

Why do I have so much to say about grief? I'm kind of an expert, unfortunately - I lost my mom on Christmas four years ago due to an accidental suicide, and my dad nine months later due to sepsis. So I've had more than my share of grief and all that comes with it.

My number one goal in creating this community is for my story and poetry to be heard. I focus on grieving out loud and not letting the non-grief-informed society define me by what I have lost. I want people to know that my life is not a sob story...I'm a real human being who has experienced deep loss.

And the best thing to come out of it is creating something that helps others - I'm so proud when people who visit my site tell me that I have helped them while grieving. I hope you'll check it out and find support there too.

Why we’re lovin’ it: What we appreciate most about the show “Shrinking” on Apple TV is that it shows grief through the eyes of a teenager and an adult, and how the relationship between father and daughter struggles while they grieve their mother/wife’s death. 

In this series, Jimmy, a father, and a therapist, distracts himself from the pain of having experienced the death of his wife and pushes himself away from his grieving teenage daughter, Alice, who needs support from her father now more than ever. 

This show explores something often not represented or talked about: how family dynamics suffer from dealing with the death of a shared person who died. 

In the show's third episode, “Fifteen Minutes,” Alice’s therapist, played by Harrison Ford (yeah, THE Harrison Ford), suggests that she take 15 minutes to listen to a song and allow herself to grieve. When she tries out the exercise, her dad finds her crying. Later on, in an effort to connect with her, he listens to the same song she does (“I Know the End”/Phoebe Bridgers) while on a bike ride and almost immediately starts sobbing before yelling a huge “Eff you, Phoebe Bridgers!” for making him feel all of the feelings. 

Talking about grief is messy. Still, it feels good to see characters accurately represent how grief can impact your relationships with your caregiver on TV. (Don’t worry, though; the show isn’t all the messy parts of grief; there are lots of laughs and tons of relatable moments from Alice's perspective.)

If you haven’t seen it, give it a watch!

We love the song "Heart of Gold"  by Shawn Mendes, which a beautiful tribute written in memory of his childhood friend who died from a drug overdose. The song is about the sadness and regret Mendes feels for not being there during his friend's struggles.

In the lyrics, he talks about missed opportunities to support his friend: "I didn't know what you were going through / I'm sorry that I wasn't there." ​

We especially appreciate the chorus: "You had a heart of gold, yeah / You had a heart of gold / You left too soon, it was out of your control," capturing the pain of losing someone too soon and the huge,  lasting impact they leave behind. ​

Mendes dedicated "Heart of Gold" to others who have experienced the grief of losing someone in this way. It's a totally heartbreaking but relatable ballot.

Why we love it: How many times do people say cringey or downright awful things to you to "make you feel better" when you're grieiving?

Maybe they give you awful grief advice like, "It's been three months since your person died. You should try to get over it." Or, maybe they try to comfort you with something like, "Oh, I know how you feel about your sadness because my gerbil died last year and it was awful" or "we didn't invite you to hang out because we thought you'd need time with your family since your sister died."

People are really trying, and often, their attempts are well...just not cutting it.

That's why we love this "Get Better Soon: I know you're not sick, I just think you could do better" card from Andaz Press Store. We're not necessarily suggesting you send it to anyone; just put it somewhere in your room that will make you laugh.